Perspectives on this week

All told, this has been an unusual week. I told someone at work it felt like a month. Last Thursday my friend Free passed away. Unfortunately, it must have been an hour or even less after we texted each other with teasing pictures of the love of his life Deb eating Tostadas. He went quiet after that but I did not think anything of it. He was often busy at his place and did not text or call back. Then Deb picked up his phone only 2 hours later and let me know he was gone. I have to admit to being incredulous since I just had talked to him awhile back that day. I asked her

what do you mean gone? you mean left for the store or out in the yard?

Deb explained in tears

no gone. He’s gone Mike. He passed.

I have to admit to feeling completely unhinged at that moment. Maybe its a normal thing and we all have gone through similar. I have myself. This one thing seemed strange since its really the only person I’ve had a regular, albeit sometimes stupid, commentary with on things as varied as buddhas, springs, and two of everything. Of course there are all private jokes with him so now I have to let Deb know so she can enjoy the pieces of Free she did not know.

But here’s what I want to say. Why is it when this happens that people linked by blood that have had no real contact for a decade move in and suddenly screw everything up? Why is it that we allow people that had no part of another’s life through choice or insult or injury the ability to move back and simply show up for the money part of things or the possession part of things? Its a stupid law that a person with no real interest besides a pot of money at the end of that rainbow is able to completely screw up a person’s life that happened to have a loving relationship. Probably knew more about him and what he did and wanted and loved.

But now, its all changed. Changed for the worst. This is the last I blog about it but its not the last I think about it. I’m really mad and I won’t be attending any funeral that they arrange knowing their real desires. They could give a shit less about him and only care about the $$.

And that’s wrong.