Talking to a friend in the work parking lot

This is about talking to a friend I have not for awhile. How good it felt to connect with someone who matters and can share some moments of discussion about work, technology, life paths and journeys not yet begun. I think one of the big moments talking to him was about the difficulties finding friends as one gets older. Its a like a wall is slowly erected around you and reaching over it gets more difficult and stressful. We just seem to lose the necessary gears and gadgets to make connections. I don’t have any desire for a relationship with a woman. I’ve outgrown that. What I do want is to have meaningful discussions with the few friends I do have. To be a friend is not just about some person that happens to go to school or work with you. If you are a friend of mine, there is a trading and bartering to be made or what we share is not friendship. Each person has to walk a distance they are comfortable with and the other person does the same.  Perhaps I am demanding in the friend space. I just don’t need dead wood friends that have no real substance to offer besides the same tired refrains.

I don’t often get to talk with friends from any of the days. It seems the walls are higher than ever. What I do know with DK is that we reach different points together and we share the desire to not have technology work be an end to itself. Lets be honest, technology is not that. It really creates a strange relationship for us and makes us strange bedfellows. Then technology is glad to leave us and make our lives stressful. Work and play in technology makes us want more work and play. And that goes on for awhile. Soon though, as we discussed on the phone tonight we reach that end point in the game.

I’m there now. I think of a Amtrak train whistle blowing its refrain and telling me I am traveling from here to there and I don’t care for either place. Its the getting there that counts. Its going from here to Seattle and Seattle to Chicago to go to Austin. Its never having to explain that I only have 4 days on this vacation. DK kinda challenged me to go to Montana and lay on my back and stare up at the sky. I think I may get there. Its not a today or tomorrow or even this week or month thing. But it could be.